He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her. so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long, long letter. He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her. Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something? Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long-term relationship? Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint? Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough? Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt? He finally decided that he couldn't go on like this anymore. you're too important to me.' This only confused the man more. but I don't want to mess up our friendship. She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said 'Thank you. He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her. After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT, that she would feel the same way. Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him. and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of 'screwing things up' by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend. The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself. She just wasn't acting like a woman that was 'falling in love'. But something was wrong with the picture. and once she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her. but nothing ever progressed past the 'friendship' stage. Sometimes she would say things like 'You are so important to me' and 'I'm glad that you're in my life'. Why? Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him. As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure. and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her. but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her. At first, she was just another attractive woman.

(And if this sounds familiar, don't worry, I have not named you!) 'Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman. But wait! Before you go any further, let me relay a story to you that David Deangelo tells in one of his newsletters (cited at end of article), because this is something that you have GOT TO KNOW before you go any further, today ? this minute! So take 5 and read on.

Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo